What if you 100% knew that everything about you was accepted, honoured, valued, liked and loved?
Letting go of fear means you can have 100% fun and fulfillment without worrying if you are dressed right, the necklace matches the shirt or your make up is on. What if everything you say is understood and valued by others. What if you know 100% the food you make is enjoyed by all who eat it, even if it didn’t turn out as it usually does? What if you know 100% that the gifts you buy are enough, or the simple words in the card is even enough, or just your presence was still enough…. would you stop worrying and questioning yourself over and over again? You are enough. You say enough. You do enough. It is all loved.
How much more enjoyable would your life be if you simply let go of all these fears that you are not even recognizing as fears?
Think of:
- the outfit you’re choosing to wear for special occasions,
- the gifts you are buying,
- the presentations you have to give,
- the words you have to say to someone who is grieving,
- the menu you are preparing for your dinner party,
- the not calling because “it’s been too long”
- the tidiness of your house when friends pop by
- the countless indecision, hesitations, doubts….
These are all fears about not being liked, loved, valued or needed. Bet you haven’t thought about it in that way before, huh?
How would the weeks, days, and hours leading up to what you are doing feel like if they are spent in peace and filled with love. How would it feel to have assurance that you are exactly what is needed in life, instead of spent in moments of worry, fear, anxiety, doubt or not feeling ‘good enough’?
It starts here, as you are reading this words. It starts with affirmations and self-assurance. It starts with self-love.
“I am Loved. I am Needed. I am Valued.”
Repeat.
“I am Loved. I am Needed. I am Valued.”
Again. And Again.
Repeat this until you actually feel a shift in your heart and soul. A small smile will feel like it is coming out. That is when you know you have said it enough times for now. Close your eyes, take a deep breath in and keep saying it. Even when you really feel it, keep saying it again and again and again. It will expand and continue to take up so much positive space in your life there won’t be enough room for fear to reside within you.
“I am Accepted.”
“I add Value to people’s lives.”
“I am Loved. Always. Every time.”
These build confidence and assurance. Which bring a sense of calm and peace. From there comes joy and happiness. They will expand into excitement and wonderment. Ultimately love will conquer all, but know that it must come from within you. It starts here, in you.
I challenge you to have awareness of your fears next time you are preparing for something. Check in with yourself and see what is running through your mind. Remember: you can’t change what you don’t recognize, but go easy on yourself. You are doing the best you can, and that is enough. I promise. You are loved. You are needed. You are valued.
(Yes… You Are!)
